Hello, I’m Lesh Karan.

I’m a former pharmacist turned professional writer – with a 5-second stint in food coaching – who's also authored a deliciously satisfying ebook. This is my little home on the web, where I share my musings on nourishing the belly and soul.

I hope you find something here that nourishes you too.

To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.

Ralph Waldo Emerson

Choc-chip banana ice-cream

A couple of days ago my hubby saw bananas in our freezer and got really excited. For him, they can only mean one thing: banana ice-cream.

Being a food lover, and not necessarily of the wholefood variety, my husband surprised me when, after the first time I made it, he said, “This ice-cream tastes so much better than the ice-cream in the supermarket.”

So, it’s about time I shared it with you. Not only because the ‘most honest taste tester of them all’ has given it his big tick of approval, but also because this ‘ice-cream’ is deliciously healthy, and super quick and easy to make, with no trace of dairy or ‘added sugars’. Besides, it’d be mighty cruel of me not to do so.

Recipe

choc-chip banana icecream

Serves 2 | Prep time 3 minutes! | dairy-free, gluten-free, vegan

Note: Make this ice-cream only when you’re ready to eat it, as freezing makes it icy. You could ‘re-churn’ it for a few seconds in the food processor, but it still won’t be a creamy as when it’s freshly made.

  • 2 ripe bananas, frozen
  • 1 tbsp 100% nut butter of choice (e.g. almond, peanut or ABC)
  • 1 tsp cacao nibs

Break frozen banana into large chunks and add to your food processor with the nut butter and cacao nibs.

Pulse until banana is smooth and a soft-serve ice-cream consistency.

Serve immediately.

Variations

You can make this ice-cream simply with just frozen banana. Or you can add other frozen fruit, such as mangoes.

I like to add a little nut butter for a creamer mouth-feel. If you’re allergic to nuts, use tahini or coconut cream instead.

You can also use a couple of squares dark chocolate (chopped into pieces) instead of the cacao nibs, but it will have added sugar.

The happiness equation

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In The Happiness Project, author Gretchen Rubin writes, “Erasmus observed, ‘The chief happiness for a man is to be what he is.’”

I’ve always envied people who, from the get-go, are clear on who they are – and what they want to do with their life.

Just last week, I was talking to my cousin-in-law – let’s call him PS – on how we both have many different interests, and how they’ve lead to our varied career paths; and how we’re still not sure where our interests will take us.

On the other hand, PS said his younger brother always knew he wanted to be a doctor – this dream profession of a once starry-eyed 5-year-old is now a reality, and he loves it.

Imagine that. To be so sure of your purpose that you don’t experience the pain and suffering of feeling lost. Your inner compass is aligned, and you’re all set to be on your right, happy path.

If you follow wellbeing and self-development-type social media accounts, you may have seen “Be your authentic self” and “Do what you love” mantras often bandied about.

These mantras, of course, imply that this is what one must do to be happy. However, they really irk me. Because to be Lesh, I find, isn’t always easy as the statements suggest.

For one, there is too much external noise – we are constantly bombarded with what others are doing, saying, being, buying, etc. – thanks to the advent of the internet. While seeing what others do certainly offers ideas of how to go about one’s own life, it can also be mighty confounding. This, in itself, is a great source of misery. You’ve heard the phrase ‘keeping with the Joneses’, right? I need not say more.

Another reason being Lesh isn’t that straightforward is because, at times, I concern myself too much about what others think – more than I care to admit, even to myself – instead of listening to my gut for what it is that I really like, am or want.

In the end, to be myself, to do what I love and, ultimately, be happy, I have realised it’s about these three not-so-easy-to-practice-but-worth-my-while-to-do-so principles.

Take action despite the unknown

Usually, if I’m unsure about something, I get caught in limbo (and overthinking) for the fear of doing something wrong, not liking it or wasting my time. But, as I have learnt, I need to ‘waste time’ in order to learn more about myself and, therefore, do more of ‘what I love’. This takes time. No pun intended. Seriously.

So, this year, I’m using my time to explore being in an office again, albeit part-time, for the first time in seven years and going to Italian classes. And I’m trying not to pay too much attention to the outcome, but, rather, my role in the dynamic of it all, and how I ‘enjoy’ it. There’s sure to be an end-of-year recap. So watch this space.

Self-awareness

While I’m ‘taking action despite not knowing the outcome’, it is self-awareness – of my thoughts, feelings and motivations – that will give me self-knowledge.

For example, I love yoga, but I’ve realised, over time, that I love it in small doses, such as going to a class. And, now, I understand my resistance to booking into full blown yoga retreat. And, I’ve finally accepted this fact about myself, as I have my desire for solitude over a raucous party any time (even if I come across as ‘boring’).

I know these realisations may sound trivial, but it goes much deeper – they’re about an inner shift from ‘romanticising’ about who you think you want to be and how you wish to be seen, to purposefully seeking self-knowledge and, importantly,  practicing self-acceptance.

Self-acceptance

I feel this is a biggie for happiness. For example, sometimes I wish I were artier, more creative, more right-brained. I admire anyone who is, and would like to be in that clique. But I’m not. It’s best I take a leaf out of my husband’s book: he makes no apologies or cares if he is judged for his desire for certain material things or his love for commercial TV. In other words, he knows who he is, and, most importantly, he doesn’t question his nature and accepts himself. Denying one’s own nature is one big fat highway to unhappiness.

Do you know who you are? If so, are you happy with who you are? Why/Why not?